Think with me for a moment: What do people see when their lives flash before their eyes? If this is a phenomenon that has happened to you or if you have spoken with someone who has had a near death experience; I will suggest their experiences are a clue for us to live a better life.
Before we review what some may experience when their life flashes before their eyes, let’s take a quick test ourselves: What do you think of when asked, “Share with me your life’s most important memories?” Please pause here and think for a moment, even writing some thoughts down.
Did things such as: your title, the car you drive, what clothes you wear or how much money you make come to mind? Or do things such as: friendships, feeling appreciated and knowing someone cared more adequately describe your memories? I will suggest to you no one remembers who won what game, who was elected to what position, who held what occupation, how much someone was earned or even how smart another may have been.
For me I remember special times; times when others made me feel good. I remember Kay Watson saying, “You are a true leader.” Kay is a leader, for her to acknowledge me helped set in motion an inner belief that I have value. Ken Kraudy who I think walks on water said, “You are one of the Nations Noblemen.” Ken has the character I only hope to achieve; his belief in me allowed an opening for me to become a better person. How about Kim during our wedding vows (as we were looking deep into each others souls, nervous and excited about a future together) saying, “I do” she actually said it twice, yah baby! Her, “I do” validated me, gave me worth and acknowledged I could achieve anything. I remember my father as he was passing away sharing with me, “I have lived a good life; one I am proud of, I am ready to go.” This touched me so deeply, it gave me an intense understanding of how important that moment is and that I must live well. Jake my son was told, “Your Dad is an amazing man;” to which he responded, “I know.” Feeling his sincerity gave me understanding I must be doing something right. Jake being close, could be my greatest critic.
We may remember beautiful places, times shared with loved ones, feelings of accomplishment and thoughts of when we served others. Each of the experiences we remember are times we felt deeply and learned powerfully. They are not times where we think of ourselves; they are times we remember our feelings.
Is it funny we don’t remember the things we think are important or that seem meaningful day-to-day; the things we perhaps spend a lot of time on? No, but knowing what is really important, creates more times to remember. These are memories reserved for the times our life flashes before our eyes!